Support with relationships

Support for relationship problems

Relationship problems are often challenging to deal with because of the simple fact that relationships are a complex interactive dynamic where two people are trying to live in harmony but have different ideas of what unity is. It does not matter if you are gay straight or bisexual, a relationship is about people not just about sex or sexuality. Hidden agendas and issues around control, problems of trust and commitment can complicate any marriage or relationship, sexual issues can leave one partner feeling embarrassed and isolated, and this can leave the other person feeling unloved or rejected. By talking to a therapist on your own or with a partner, you can explore the thoughts and feelings centred on your ability to communicate your emotional needs effectively to others. Living with an abusive partner can have a toxic and detrimental impact on the persons self-esteem and confidence, the longer the abusive relationship continues, the more helpless the person feels making it more difficult to break free. Starting to regain your life by ending the relationship in this circumstance is a way of restoring control and restarting your life, but it can also be challenging to keep up the progress if your self-esteem has been severely damaged. Abusive partners promising to change their behaviours, continually begging for another chance or just continuing to try and intimidate, can make it very difficult to keep the resolve and endure. Finding support from family and friends is very important, and can be very helpful, a therapist can also help address the feelings of helplessness and embarrassment or shame, and support the person trying to regain their life.

Wondering what to do? Thinking about her him or you?

If you are thinking of starting marriage guidance or seeking independent relationship assistance, an important thought to remember is that you do not need to bring a partner into therapy, when seeking help with your marriage or relationship, you can have therapy sessions for relationship problems on your own. People do find this way of actioning relationship issues very helpful, especially when it's about should I end the relationship or try saving it, for some, it is about questioning the actions of their partner within the relationship, is it abusive or controlling, is a common question people seek to ask.

Are you trying to find clarity?

Understanding your anger and frustration and what it means for you Work through confusion and uncertainty Learn to work past divorce or separation Work on self-esteem issues and insecurity issues to improve the quality of your relationship Find new ways to get what you need emotionally that may also improve the physical side of your life Working with points such as anger and learn how to understand and use emotions constructively and become more independent

Can online counselling help me with my relationships?

With relationship counselling over the Internet, you can explore the complexity of your internal needs and external experiences to allow a clearer picture of who you are and what you need from a relationship. It can help you find a new clearer understanding of how to help yourself or even find a new way forward; there may be quite a difference between what you think you want and what you need from a relationship. As social beings we need the company or social interaction with others to fulfil our needs, both emotionally and physically, we need the support network that friendships and family provide us with, to help in times of emotional turmoil and need. Some of the most important relationships are the ones that we experience in our childhood, the emotional support that is given or withheld can shape the way we attach to others in the future, our childhood experiences can set the building blocks for our future relationships. When children feel loved and wanted within a family and social network, that also provides them with a safe, supportive environment to explore the world around them and to grow emotionally, in time, they will help support others as they develop into adults. However, some children never experience a normal emotionally supportive family environment. Unfortunately, some children will become emotionally damaged by physical sexual and psychological abuse. The abused children can lose their ability to develop emotional maturity and can struggle to cope with life on many levels, and this can lead to a distorted view of their role within any relationship, and lead to dysfunctional thinking and behaviours that in turn will produce problems within the relationship. Dysfunctional thinking and behaviours will have repercussions in later life, from subconsciously (not knowingly) looking for and finding abusive relationships in the future or pushing people away to limit the likelihood of it happening again. Seemingly simple behaviours can destroy a relationship from within, feelings of insecurity or low self-esteem can lead to a person feeling the need to test the partnership continually until damaged beyond repair. An insecure partner can place enormous pressure on the bond between two people, with constant demands for physical needs like sex, or being constantly emotionally clingy by demanding lots of affection and attention; there may be unfounded jealousy, leading to groundless accusations of adultery, and outbursts of anger and even abusive controlling or violent behaviours.

Learn new communication skills

Not many people communicate at a level that makes a relationship work, how many times have you felt hurt by a partners actions or words but have never said so, you just ignored or buried it away, or left it simmering until it builds up into a significant explosion of anger or frustration. Communication leads to better relationships, and online counselling is worth trying before it gets out of hand. Better communication leads to better relationships. When in therapy you can explore the issues surrounding your life in a safe and confidential environment that will allow you the freedom to test new ways of thinking and feeling.
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Support with relationships

Support for relationship problems

Relationship problems are often challenging to deal with because of the simple fact that relationships are a complex interactive dynamic where two people are trying to live in harmony but have different ideas of what unity is. It does not matter if you are gay straight or bisexual, a relationship is about people not just about sex or sexuality. Hidden agendas and issues around control, problems of trust and commitment can complicate any marriage or relationship, sexual issues can leave one partner feeling embarrassed and isolated, and this can leave the other person feeling unloved or rejected. By talking to a therapist on your own or with a partner, you can explore the thoughts and feelings centred on your ability to communicate your emotional needs effectively to others. Living with an abusive partner can have a toxic and detrimental impact on the persons self-esteem and confidence, the longer the abusive relationship continues, the more helpless the person feels making it more difficult to break free. Starting to regain your life by ending the relationship in this circumstance is a way of restoring control and restarting your life, but it can also be challenging to keep up the progress if your self-esteem has been severely damaged. Abusive partners promising to change their behaviours, continually begging for another chance or just continuing to try and intimidate, can make it very difficult to keep the resolve and endure. Finding support from family and friends is very important, and can be very helpful, a therapist can also help address the feelings of helplessness and embarrassment or shame, and support the person trying to regain their life.

Wondering what to do? Thinking about her him

or you?

If you are thinking of starting marriage guidance or seeking independent relationship assistance, an important thought to remember is that you do not need to bring a partner into therapy, when seeking help with your marriage or relationship, you can have therapy sessions for relationship problems on your own. People do find this way of actioning relationship issues very helpful, especially when it's about should I end the relationship or try saving it, for some, it is about questioning the actions of their partner within the relationship, is it abusive or controlling, is a common question people seek to ask.

Are you trying to find clarity?

Understanding your anger and frustration and what it means for you Work through confusion and uncertainty Learn to work past divorce or separation Work on self-esteem issues and insecurity issues to improve the quality of your relationship Find new ways to get what you need emotionally that may also improve the physical side of your life Working with points such as anger and learn how to understand and use emotions constructively and become more independent

Can online counselling help me with my

relationships?

With relationship counselling over the Internet, you can explore the complexity of your internal needs and external experiences to allow a clearer picture of who you are and what you need from a relationship. It can help you find a new clearer understanding of how to help yourself or even find a new way forward; there may be quite a difference between what you think you want and what you need from a relationship. As social beings we need the company or social interaction with others to fulfil our needs, both emotionally and physically, we need the support network that friendships and family provide us with, to help in times of emotional turmoil and need. Some of the most important relationships are the ones that we experience in our childhood, the emotional support that is given or withheld can shape the way we attach to others in the future, our childhood experiences can set the building blocks for our future relationships. When children feel loved and wanted within a family and social network, that also provides them with a safe, supportive environment to explore the world around them and to grow emotionally, in time, they will help support others as they develop into adults. However, some children never experience a normal emotionally supportive family environment. Unfortunately, some children will become emotionally damaged by physical sexual and psychological abuse. The abused children can lose their ability to develop emotional maturity and can struggle to cope with life on many levels, and this can lead to a distorted view of their role within any relationship, and lead to dysfunctional thinking and behaviours that in turn will produce problems within the relationship. Dysfunctional thinking and behaviours will have repercussions in later life, from subconsciously (not knowingly) looking for and finding abusive relationships in the future or pushing people away to limit the likelihood of it happening again. Seemingly simple behaviours can destroy a relationship from within, feelings of insecurity or low self-esteem can lead to a person feeling the need to test the partnership continually until damaged beyond repair. An insecure partner can place enormous pressure on the bond between two people, with constant demands for physical needs like sex, or being constantly emotionally clingy by demanding lots of affection and attention; there may be unfounded jealousy, leading to groundless accusations of adultery, and outbursts of anger and even abusive controlling or violent behaviours.

Learn new communication skills

Not many people communicate at a level that makes a relationship work, how many times have you felt hurt by a partners actions or words but have never said so, you just ignored or buried it away, or left it simmering until it builds up into a significant explosion of anger or frustration. Communication leads to better relationships, and online counselling is worth trying before it gets out of hand. Better communication leads to better relationships. When in therapy you can explore the issues surrounding your life in a safe and confidential environment that will allow you the freedom to test new ways of thinking and feeling.
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