Setting Personal Goals

The first session is about finding out what you think about the service and the possibilities it provides you and allowing me the time to try and understand you, this page is about the second session and the items here are just some ideas to help you in that next session. When therapy starts you may have an idea of what you want to change or you may just want to explore thoughts feelings or experiences at this time before trying to see what you want to do in further therapy sessions. You may come into therapy with a clear idea of what you need to change but you do not know how to make that change, or you may need some time to try and clear away any confusion you may have before trying to focus on any particular area. It is good to try to understand what you what to achieve or what you want to clarify if possible. You may find it helpful to think about the questions you see here before starting online counselling. If you can make a note of the answers you have or your thoughts around them and bring it into therapy it may help you find some direction or clarify what you can do or want to do.

What part do I play in this?

My job is to be a catalyst for change to support you the best I can in helping you find what you need, this may include just listening and understanding or sometimes gently challenging your perceptions or beliefs and trying to find new ways of understanding experiences in life. Some of the exercises you can find here are not a requirement but you may find them useful at any stage.

Helpful questions to ask yourself

Before or during therapy the questions bellow can help you focus or help you find some clarity, make a note of your answers and take them into the session if you think they may help.

What do I want from therapy?

Any thoughts around what you hope therapy will do for you are important. Some people only want to find some direction in life or discover more about themselves and others want to find the best way to understand what is important to them, it can be just about exploring options or possibilities as well as making changes or setting any goals. 

What do I need in my life that I do not have at this time that will change my life for the better?

Practical or emotional needs are important, it can be anything from changing the type of work you do to changing the partner you have, from being able to live a less isolating life to being more assertive with people. What would make a difference to how you feel if you changed an aspect of you or your behaviour, drinking less, being less controlling having more control whatever seems to make sense to you.  

What is stopping me from making the changes I want to make?

Partners, family, friends, can put barriers in your way confusing the real choices that you have, self-defeating behaviours can misdirect us, like using alcohol or drugs to manage stress or anxiety and self-esteem issues can make saying NO almost impossible and that can end up reducing the time you need for your own life, limiting the choices you have or confusing you and sapping your confidence. What is stopping you?

What are the worst choices I made in my life?

What are the best choices I made in my life?

As human beings, we try to the best we can but we will get it wrong, our choices are made on what we know and our experiences so far in life and we can’t predict the future even if we think we can.

What don’t I like about myself?

What do I like about myself?

Try to be honest but fair, it can be helpful to try and see it from another prospective such as how would a best friend answer the question.

What's my biggest regret in life?

Most people have some regrets in life but some regrets stop us from moving on, feelings of guilt and shame or anger can constantly play on people’s minds.
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Setting Personal Goals

The first session is about finding out what you think about the service and the possibilities it provides you and allowing me the time to try and understand you, this page is about the second session and the items here are just some ideas to help you in that next session. When therapy starts you may have an idea of what you want to change or you may just want to explore thoughts feelings or experiences at this time before trying to see what you want to do in further therapy sessions. You may come into therapy with a clear idea of what you need to change but you do not know how to make that change, or you may need some time to try and clear away any confusion you may have before trying to focus on any particular area. It is good to try to understand what you what to achieve or what you want to clarify if possible. You may find it helpful to think about the questions you see here before starting online counselling. If you can make a note of the answers you have or your thoughts around them and bring it into therapy it may help you find some direction or clarify what you can do or want to do.

What part do I play in this?

My job is to be a catalyst for change to support you the best I can in helping you find what you need, this may include just listening and understanding or sometimes gently challenging your perceptions or beliefs and trying to find new ways of understanding experiences in life. Some of the exercises you can find here are not a requirement but you may find them useful at any stage.

Helpful questions to ask

yourself

Before or during therapy the questions bellow can help you focus or help you find some clarity, make a note of your answers and take them into the session if you think they may help.

What do I want from therapy?

Any thoughts around what you hope therapy will do for you are important. Some people only want to find some direction in life or discover more about themselves and others want to find the best way to understand what is important to them, it can be just about exploring options or possibilities as well as making changes or setting any goals. 

What do I need in my life that I do not have at

this time that will change my life for the better?

Practical or emotional needs are important, it can be anything from changing the type of work you do to changing the partner you have, from being able to live a less isolating life to being more assertive with people. What would make a difference to how you feel if you changed an aspect of you or your behaviour, drinking less, being less controlling having more control whatever seems to make sense to you.  

What is stopping me from making the changes I

want to make?

Partners, family, friends, can put barriers in your way confusing the real choices that you have, self- defeating behaviours can misdirect us, like using alcohol or drugs to manage stress or anxiety and self-esteem issues can make saying NO almost impossible and that can end up reducing the time you need for your own life, limiting the choices you have or confusing you and sapping your confidence. What is stopping you?

What are the worst choices I made in my life?

What are the best choices I made in my life?

As human beings, we try to the best we can but we will get it wrong, our choices are made on what we know and our experiences so far in life and we can’t predict the future even if we think we can.

What don’t I like about myself?

What do I like about myself?

Try to be honest but fair, it can be helpful to try and see it from another prospective such as how would a best friend answer the question.

What's my biggest regret in life?

Most people have some regrets in life but some regrets stop us from moving on, feelings of guilt and shame or anger can constantly play on people’s minds.
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All copyrights reserved. Online Therapy Services

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